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Daniel Goleman (born March 7, 1946) is an author and science journalist. For twelve years, he wrote for The New York Times, reporting on the brain and behavioral sciences. His 1995 book Emotional Intelligence was on The New York Times Best Seller list for a year-and-a-half, a best-seller in many countries, and is in print worldwide in 40 languages. Apart from his books on emotional intelligence, Goleman has written books on topics including self-deception, creativity, transparency, meditation, social and emotional learning, ecoliteracy and the ecological crisis, and the Dalai Lama’s vision for the future.


School success is not predicted by a child's fund of facts or a precocious ability to read as much as by emotional and social measures.

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School success is not predicted by a child's fund of facts or a precocious ability to read as much as by emotional and social measures; being self-assured and interested: knowing what kind of behavior is expected and how to rein in the impulse to misbehave; being able to wait, to follow directions, and to turn to teachers for help; and expressing needs while getting along with other children.



Feelings are self-justifying, with a set of perceptions and proofs all their own.



Emotional intelligence does not mean merely being nice. At strategic moment it may demand not being nice, but rather, for example, bluntly confronting someone with an uncomfortable but consequential truth they've been avoiding.



Emotional intelligence accounts for 80 percent of career success.



There is zero correlation between IQ and emotional empathy. They're controlled by different parts of the brain.



In a very real sense we have two minds, one that thinks and one that feels.



We're exposed and carry in our bodies multiple chemicals, and we have to understand how they interact. Both how they individually interact and the thousands of effects they can produce when they interact with the receptors that run our bodies.



For the High Achievers, Studying Gave Them The Pleasing, Absorbing Challenge of Flow Percent of the Hours They Spent as It.



Happy, calm children learn best.



Daydreaming incubates creative discovery.



The human brain is by no means fully formed at birth. It continues to shape itself through life, with the most intense growth occurring during childhood.





People who are optimistic see a failure as due to something that can be changed so that they can succeed next time around, while pessimists take the blame for the failure, ascribing it to some characteristic they are helpless to change.



The more time you put into practicing, then, the greater the payoff.



We need to re-create boundaries. When you carry a digital gadget that creates a virtual link to the office, you need to create a virtual boundary that didn't exist before.



CEOs are hired for their intellect and business expertise -- and fired for a lack of emotional intelligence.



Empathetic people are superb at recognizing and meeting the needs of clients, customers, or subordinates. They seem approachable, wanting to hear what people have to say. They listen carefully, picking up on what people are truly concerned about, and respond on the mark.





The best leaders don't know just one style of leadership--they're skilled at several, and have the flexibility to switch between styles as the circumstances dictate.



We should spend less time ranking children and more time helping them to identify their natural competencies and gifts, and cultivate those.



Empathy represents the foundation skill for all the social competencies important for work.



In the calculus of the heart it is the ratio of positive to negative emotions that determines the sense of well- being.



We learn best with focused attention. As we focus on what we're learning, the brain maps that information on what we already know making new neural connections.





Remember, empathy need not lead to sympathetically giving in to the other side's demands--knowing how someone feels does not mean agreeing with them.



Gifted leadership occurs when heart and head -- feeling and thought -- meet. These are the two winds that allow a leader to soar.





It is difficult to spread the contagion of excitement without having a sense of purpose and direction.



At last, psychology gets serious about glee, fun, and happiness. Martin Seligman has given us a gift-a practical map for the perennial quest for a flourishing life.



Like secondhand smoke, the leakage of emotions can make a bystander an innocent casualty of someone else's toxic state.



One of the leading theories of why electroconvulsive therapy is effective for most severe depressions is that it causes a loss of short-term memory -- patients feel better because they can't remember why they were sad.



When the eyes of a woman that a man finds attractive look directly at him, his brain secretes the pleasure-inducing chemical dopamine -- but not when she looks elsewhere.



One aspect of a successful relationship is not just how compatible you are, but how you deal with your incompatibility.





The emotional brain is highly attuned to symbolic meanings and to the mode Freud called the 'primary process' -- the messages of metaphor, story, myth, the arts.



Shipping by sea produces 1 60 the emissions of shipping by air and about 1 5 that of trucking.



Life without passion would be a dull wasteland of neutrality, cut off and isolated from the richness of life itself.



Our passions, when well exercised, have wisdom; they guide our thinking, our values, our survival.



When the darkness is seen as a necessary prelude to the creative light, one is less likely to ascribe frustration to personal inadequacy or label it as bad.



People's emotions are rarely put into words , far more often they are expressed through other cues. the key to intuiting another's feelings is in the ability to read nonverbal channels , tone of voice , gesture , facial expression and the like.



There is a newly coined word in the English language for the moment when the person we're with whips out their BlackBerry or answers that cell phone, and all of a sudden we don't exist. The word is 'pizzled': it's a combination of puzzled and pissed off.



Our emotional mind will harness the rational mind to its purposes, for our feelings and reactions -- rationalizations -- justifying them in terms of the present moment, without realizing the influence of our emotional memory.



Directing attention toward where it needs to go is a primal task of leadership.



Fear, in evolution, has a special prominence: perhaps more than any other emotion it is crucial for survival.





Women, on average, tend to be more aware of their emotions, show more empathy, and are more adept interpersonally. Men on the other hand, are more self-confident and optimistic, adapt more easily, and handle stress better.







Goal directed self-imposed delay of gratification is perhaps the essence of emotional self-regulation: the ability to deny impulse in the service of a goal, whether it be building a business, solving an algebraic equation, or pursuing the Stanley Cup.



Risk taking and the drive to pursue innovative ideas are the fuel that stokes the entrepreneurial spirit.





Sheree Conrad and Michael Milburn bring a much-needed sanity to that confusing and unruly terrain, our sexual lives .



Every morning, I go off to a small studio behind my house to write. I try to ignore all email and phone calls until lunchtime. Then I launch into the sometimes frantic busy-ness of a tightly scheduled day.





Empathic, emotionally intelligent work environments have a good track record of increasing creativity, improving problem solving and raising productivity.



The near cousin of optimism is hope: knowing the steps needed to get to a goal and having the energy to pursue those steps. It is a primal motivating force, and its absence is paralyzing.



The ability to handle stress increases with the practice of meditation. In a culture like ours in which inner, spiritual growth is totally neglected in favor of materialistic pursuits, we might have something to learn from the Hare Krishna devotees' meditational practices.



A leader tuned out of his internal world will be rudderless; one blind to the world of others will be clueless; those indifferent to the larger systems within which they operate will be blindsided.





Compassion begins with attention.



Emotional self-awareness is the building block of the next fundamental emotional intelligence: being able to shake off a bad mood.



Scheduling down time as part of your routine is hard but worth it, personally, even professionally.





In a high-IQ job pool, soft skills like discipline, drive and empathy mark those who emerge as outstanding.



Some children naturally have more cognitive control than others, and in all kids this essential skill is being compromised by the usual suspects: smartphones, TV, etc. But there are many ways that adults can help kids learn better cognitive control.



I don't think focus is in itself ever a bad thing. But focus of the wrong kind, or managed poorly, can be.



Social distance makes it all the easier to focus on small differences between groups and to put a negative spin on the ways of others and a positive spin on our own.



Teachers need to be comfortable talking about feelings.

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Teachers need to be comfortable talking about feelings. This is part of teaching emotional literacy -- a set of skills we can all develop, including the ability to read, understand, and respond appropriately to one's own emotions and the emotions of others.



Once shoppers become empowered, we will facilitate industries thinking in completely new terms; for example, making products that are totally biodegradable.



Buying phosphate-free soap allows you to say, 'My detergent doesn't have the harsh chemicals others do.' The question is, how are you washing with it? The very worst thing for the Earth about detergent is that we heat water to use it.



The book is a dialogue between The Dalai Lama and a group of scientists about how we can better handle our destructive emotions and how to overcome them.



People tend to become more emotionally intelligent as they age and mature.



If you do a practice and train your attention to hover in the present, then you will build the internal capacity to do that as needed -- at will and voluntarily.



If you are doing mindfulness meditation, you are doing it with your ability to attend to the moment.



The amygdala in the emotional center sees and hears everything that occurs to us instantaneously and is the trigger point for the fight or flight response.



Well, any effort to maximize your potential and ability is a good thing.



But there has also been a notable increase in recent years of these applications by a much wider slice of psychotherapists -- far greater interest than ever before.



While there I began to study the Asian religions as theories of mind.



Societies can be sunk by the weight of buried ugliness.



I think the smartest thing for people to do to manage very distressing emotions is to take a medication if it helps, but don't do only that. You also need to train your mind.



Empathy and social skills are social intelligence, the interpersonal part of emotional intelligence. That's why they look alike.



The basic premise that children must learn about emotions is that all feelings are okay to have; however, only some reactions are okay.



Emotional intelligence begins to develop in the earliest years. All the small exchanges children have with their parents, teachers, and with each other carry emotional messages.



When I went on to write my next book, Working With Emotional Intelligence, I wanted to make a business case that the best performers were those people strong in these skills.



The more socially intelligent you are, the happier and more robust and more enjoyable your relationships will be.



Whenever we feel stressed out, that's a signal that our brain is pumping out stress hormones. If sustained over months and years, those hormones can ruin our health and make us a nervous wreck.



The other thing is that if you rely solely on medication to manage depression or anxiety, for example, you have done nothing to train the mind, so that when you come off the medication, you are just as vulnerable to a relapse as though you had never taken the medication.



The emotional brain responds to an event more quickly than the thinking brain.



But once you are in that field, emotional intelligence emerges as a much stronger predictor of who will be most successful, because it is how we handle ourselves in our relationships that determines how well we do once we are in a given job.



I would say that IQ is the strongest predictor of which field you can get into and hold a job in, whether you can be an accountant, lawyer or nurse, for example.



My hope was that organizations would start including this range of skills in their training programs -- in other words, offer an adult education in social and emotional intelligence.



One way to boost our will power and focus is to manage our distractions instead of letting them manage us.



True compassion means not only feeling another's pain but also being moved to help relieve it.



Smart phones and social media expand our universe. We can connect with others or collect information easier and faster than ever.


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