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Without loving-kindness for ourselves, it is difficult, if not impossible, to genuinely feel it for others.

--Pema Chodron

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Are you experiencing restlessness? Stay! Are fear and loathing out of control? Stay! Aching knees and throbbing back? Stay! What's for lunch? Stay! I can't stand this another minute! Stay!

--Pema Chodron
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Compassion starts with making friends with ourselves.

--Pema Chodron

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The most heartbreaking thing of all is how we cheat ourselves of the present moment.

--Pema Chodron
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Mindfulness is loving all the details of our lives, and awareness is the natural thing that happens: life begins to open up, and you realize that you're always standing at the center of the world.

--Pema Chodron



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The most complete and true happiness comes in moments when you feel right there, completely present, with no ideas about good and bad, right and wrong -- just a sense of open heart and open mind.

--Pema Chodron

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Whatever is happening is the path to enlightenment.

--Pema Chodron
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This very moment is the perfect teacher, and, lucky for us, it's with us wherever we go.

--Pema Chodron


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We're not trying to be something we aren't; rather, we're reconnecting with who we are.

--Pema Chodron

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Searching for happiness prevents us from ever finding it.

--Pema Chodron
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It becomes increasingly clear that we won't be free of self-destructive patterns unless we develop a compassionate understanding of what they are.

--Pema Chodron
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The essence of practice is always the same: instead of falling prey to a chain reaction of revenge or self-hatred, we gradually learn to catch the emotional reaction and drop the story lines.

--Pema Chodron
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Every small problem most likely stems from the same root as large problems, and so there is no need to always go deep. One can use anything for the therapeutic process and if this link is made.

--Pema Chodron
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If we knew that tonight we were going to go blind, we would take a long, last real look at every blade of grass, every cloud formation, every speck of dust, every rainbow, raindrop-everything.

--Pema Chodron


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Ordinarily we are swept away by habitual momentum and don't interrupt our patterns slightly. When we feel betrayed or disappointed, does it occur to us to practice?

--Pema Chodron

Longer Version:

Ordinarily we are swept away by habitual momentum. We don't interrupt our patterns even slightly. With practice, however, we learn to stay with a broken heart, with a nameless fear, with the desire for revenge. Sticking with uncertainty is how we learn to relax in the midst of chaos, how we learn to be cool when the ground beneath us suddenly disappears.


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If you aren't feeding the fire of anger or the fire of craving by talking to yourself, then the fire doesn't have anything to feed on.

--Pema Chodron
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True compassion does not come from wanting to help out those less fortunate than ourselves but from realizing our kinship with all beings.

--Pema Chodron
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Treat yourself as your own beloved child.

--Pema Chodron
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Sitting meditation gives us a way to move closer to our thoughts and emotions and to get in touch with our bodies.

--Pema Chodron


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The only way to ease our pain is to experience it fully. Learn to stay with uneasiness, learn to stay with the tightening, so that the habitual chain reaction doesn't continue to rule your life.

--Pema Chodron
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Don't get caught up in hopes of what you'll achieve and how good your situation will be some day in the future. What you do right now is what matters.

--Pema Chodron

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To live is to be willing to die over and over again.

--Pema Chodron

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Gloriousness and wretchedness need each other. One inspires us, the other softens us.

--Pema Chodron

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The painful thing is that when we buy into disapproval,we are practicing disapproval. When we buy into harshness,we are practicing harshness.

--Pema Chodron

Longer Version:

The painful thing is that when we buy into disapproval, we are practicing disapproval. When we buy into harshness, we are practicing harshness. The more we do it, the stronger these qualities become. How sad it is that we become so expert at causing harm to ourselves and others. The trick then is to practice gentleness and letting go. We can learn to meet whatever arises with curiosity and not make it such a big deal.


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You build inner strength through embracing the totality of your experience, both the delightful parts and the difficult parts.

--Pema Chodron
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When you open the door and invite in all sentient beings as your guests, you have to drop your agenda.

--Pema Chodron
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Feel the wounded heart that's underneath the addiction, self-loathing, or anger.

--Pema Chodron


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The future is the result of what we do right now.

--Pema Chodron

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The next step is to learn to communicate with the people that you feel are causing your pain and misery- not to learn how to prove them wrong and yourself right but how to communicate from the heart.

--Pema Chodron

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Never underestimate the desire to bolt.

--Pema Chodron
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I can't overestimate the importance of accepting ourselves exactly as we are right now, not as we wish we were or think we ought to be.

--Pema Chodron


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Although we have the potential to experience the freedom of a butterfly, we mysteriously prefer the small and fearful cocoon of ego.

--Pema Chodron
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The real thing that we renounce is the tenacious hope that we could be saved from being who we are.

--Pema Chodron
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Never underestimate the power of compassionately recognizing what's going on.

--Pema Chodron
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Somehow, in the process of trying to deny that things are always changing, we lose our sense of the sacredness of life. We tend to forget that we are part of the natural scheme of things.

--Pema Chodron


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When we protect ourselves so we won't feel pain, that protection becomes like armor, like armor that imprisons the softness of of the heart.

--Pema Chodron

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We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a human experience and Infinite love is the only truth; everything else is an illusion.

--Pema Chodron
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Most spiritual experiences begin with suffering. They begin with groundlessness. They begin when the rug has been pulled out from under us.

--Pema Chodron


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There isn't anything except your own life that can be used as ground for your spiritual practice. Spiritual practice is your life, twenty-four hours a day.

--Pema Chodron
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Patience has nothing to do with suppression. In fact, it has everything to do with a gentle, honest relationship with yourself.

--Pema Chodron




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We are undoing a pattern... It's the human pattern: we project onto the world a zillion possibilities of attaining resolution.

--Pema Chodron
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The point is that our true nature is not some ideal that we have to live up to. It's who we are right now, and that's what we can make friends with and celebrate.

--Pema Chodron

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Tonglen dissolves your solid sense of I'm the wise person, I'm going to help this poor, unfortunate loser.

--Pema Chodron
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The greatest obstacle to connecting with our joy is resentment.

--Pema Chodron
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Deep down in the human spirit, there is a reservoir of courage. It is always available, always waiting to be discovered.

--Pema Chodron
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Welcome the present moment as if you had invited it. Why? Because it is all we ever have.

--Pema Chodron

Longer Version:

Welcome the present moment as if you had invited it. It is all we ever have, so we night as well work with it rather than struggling against it. We might as well make it our friend and teacher rather than our enemy.


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This moving away from comfort and security, this stepping out into what is unknown, uncharted and shaky -- that's called liberation.

--Pema Chodron
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Better to join in with humanity than to set ourselves apart.

--Pema Chodron
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When things are shaky and nothing is working, we might realize that we are on the verge of something.

--Pema Chodron

Longer Version:

When things are shaky and nothing is working, we might realize that we are on the verge of something. We might realize that this is a very vulnerable and tender place, and that tenderness can go either way. We can shut down and feel resentful or we can touch in on that throbbing quality. (9).




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Compassion for others begins with kindness to ourselves.

--Pema Chodron

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We don't set out to save the world; we set out to wonder how other people are doing and to reflect on how our actions affect other people's hearts.

--Pema Chodron
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As each breath goes out, let it be the end of that moment and the birth of something new.

--Pema Chodron
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It isn't what happens to us that causes us to suffer; it's what we say to ourselves about what happens.

--Pema Chodron
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Each time you stay present with fear and uncertainty, you're letting go of a habitual way of finding security and comfort.

--Pema Chodron
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Rejoicing in ordinary things is not sentimental or trite. It actually takes guts. Each time we drop our complaints and allow everyday good fortune to inspire us, we enter the warrior's world.

--Pema Chodron





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Meditation practice isn't about trying to throw ourselves away and become something better. It's about befriending who we are already.

--Pema Chodron

Longer Version:

Meditation practice isn't about trying to throw ourselves away and become something better. It's about befriending who we are already. The ground of practice is you or me or whoever we are right now, just as we are. That's the ground, that's what we study, that's what we come to know with tremendous curiosity and interest.



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The essence of generosity is letting go. Pain is always a sign that we are holding on to something -- usually ourselves.

--Pema Chodron
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A further sign of health is that we don't become undone by fear and trembling, but we take it as a message that it's time to stop struggling and look directly at what's threatening us.

--Pema Chodron
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When you begin to touch your heart or let your heart be touched, you begin to discover that it's bottomless.

--Pema Chodron

Longer Version:

When you begin to touch your heart or let your heart be touched, you begin to discover that it's bottomless, that it doesn't have any resolution, that this heart is huge, vast, and limitless. You begin to discover how much warmth and gentleness is there, as well as how much space.


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