The most powerful force in the human psyche is people's need for their words and actions to stay consistent with their IDENTITY -- how we define ourselves.
Your current situation does not determine your future. Your future is determined by your decision to succeed.
Do something physical every day, even if it's just five or ten minutes of fast walking a couple times a day. That tends to replace fear and anger with determination and courage. It can change your identity, your momentum.
You must find something you want to live for that's bigger than yourself -- a mission -- whether it's your children, a business, a non-profit, whatever. That pulls you to achieve, which is far more sustainable than to push yourself to. You can only push yourself for so long.
I think you got to put your intimate relationship first. If you can keep your woman first and still love your children, you are going to create the healthiest environment.
The only problem we really have is we think we're not supposed to have problems! Problems call us to higher level- -- face and solve them now!
Most people, if they're doing really well in their career, often don't have the right intimacy with their partner, or they're doing great in their home life, but their finances are a mess.
Throughout human history, our greatest leaders and thinkers have used the power of words to transform our emotions, to enlist us in their causes, and to shape the course of destiny. Words can not only create emotions, they create actions. And from our actions flow the results of our lives.
If we get total certainty, we get … bored out of our minds. So, God, in Her infinite wisdom, gave us a second human need, which is uncertainty. We need variety. We need surprise.
Forgiveness -- this needs to be our greatest skill. The way to get good at forgiveness is: to be thankful for all the little things you see in the other person.
Ultimately the way to win the game of life, is found in only one thing: Our ability to choose meaning in any life circumstance. Become the master of meaning and you master your life.
If you're gonna make a change, you're gonna have to operate from a new belief that says life happens not to me but for me.
Don't be afraid of new ideas. Be afraid of old ideas. They keep you where you are and stop you from growing and moving forward. Concentrate on where you want to go, not on what you fear.
With enough emotional intensity and repetition, our nervous systems experience something as real, even if it hasn't occurred yet.
In order to take our lives to the next level, we must realize that the same pattern of thinking that has gotten us to where we are now will not get us to where we want to go.
You must find a more empowering source of comfort, connection, and control than food. Perhaps a creative outlet, helping others, becoming active in an organization, whatever.
We usually overestimate what we think we can accomplish in one year-but we grossly underestimate what we can accomplish in a decade.
Will today be the day you decide once and for all to make your life consistent with the quality of your spirit? Then start by proclaiming, This is what I am. This is what my life is about. And this is what I'm going to do. Nothing will stop me from achieving my destiny. I will not be denied!
There are no real successes without rejection. The more rejection you get, the better you are, the more you've learned, the closer you are to your outcome... If you can handle rejection, you'll learn to get everything you want.
Don't limit your challenges; challenge your limits. Each day we must strive for constant and never ending improvement.
Happiness and success in life are not the result of what we have, but rather of how we live. What we do with the things we have makes the biggest difference in the quality of life.
If you don't set a baseline standard for what you'll accept in life, you'll find it's easy to slip into behaviours and attitudes or a quality of life that's far below what you deserve.
What we do in life is determined by how we communicate to ourselves. In the modern world, the quality of life is the quality of communication.
To create an extraordinary quality of life, you must create a vision that's not only obtainable, but that is sustainable.
We all have an emotional home that we keep coming back to. Even if a foundationally angry or sad person has a good job and good family, they return to their emotional home, especially when experiencing life's inevitable setbacks.
When you go on an extreme diet, your body's self-preservation mechanism responds by burning calories as slowly as possible. Of course, that makes it much more difficult to lose weight.
Never leave the site of a goal without first taking some form of positive action towards its attainment. Right now, take a moment to define the first steps you must take to achieve some goal. What can you do today to move forward?
There are a lot of talkers in the world. There are a lot of people who know what's right and what's powerful, yet still aren't producing the results they desire. It's not enough to talk the talk. You've got to walk the talk.
The most important rules that I ever adopted to help me in achieving my goals were those I learned from a very successful man who taught me to first write down the goal, and then to never leave the site of setting a goal without first taking some form of positive action toward its attainment.
People who succeed have momentum. The more they succeed, the more they want to succeed, and the more they find a way to succeed. Similarly, when someone is failing, the tendency is to get on a downward spiral that can even become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Every great, successful person I know shares the capacity to remain centered, clear, and powerful in the midst of emotional 'storms'.
Think of all your experiences as a huge tapestry that can be laid out in whatever pattern you wish. Each day you add a new thread to the weaving. Do you craft a curtain to hide behind, or do you fashion a magic carpet that will care you to unequaled heights?
If you want to cure boredom, be curious. If you're curious, nothing is a chore; it's automatic -- you want to study. Cultivate curiosity, and life becomes an unending study of joy.
Cultivate Curiosity. If you really want to grow in your lifetime, learn to be as inquisitive as a child. Curious people are never bored, and for them life becomes an unending study of joy.
Most of society thinks that biography is destiny, that the past equals the future, and of course it does if you live there...but what we really have to remind ourselves is that decision is the ultimate power.
Success is doing what you want to do, when you want, where you want, with whom you want, as much as you want.
When your spirit is alive, when somebody has got a strong spirit, they could be on the verge of death physically, and they'll leak out more life.
Beliefs are either the keys to your freedom,
Or they can also become the giant locks to the prison
That keeps you from achieving what you want.
'Why me?' rarely produces a positive result, while 'How can I use this?' usually leads us in the direction of turning our difficulties into a driving force to make ourselves and the world better.
Don't ever speak publicly about anything that you're not passionate about and that you don't actually believe you have something truly unique about it to deliver.
Don't labor forever over the question of how or if you can do it. Studies have shown that the most successful people make decisions rapidly because they are clear on their values and what they really want for their lives.
So if you don't like your life, change it. How would you change it? You decide. There's no action without first decision. Decision is the mother or the father of action, and action is what changes your life.
I don't think I have any regrets, but I can tell you what I learned from mistakes or failures. I've had plenty of those. I just don't believe in regret, and my economic world is not what I would ever have imagined; I'm financially free.
Live life fully while you're here. Experience everything. Take care of yourself and your friends. Have fun, be crazy, be weird.
Live life fully while you're here. Experience everything. Take care of yourself and your friends. Have fun, be crazy, be weird. Go out and screw up! You're going to anyway, so you might as well enjoy the process. Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes: find the cause of your problem and eliminate it. Don't try to be perfect; just be an excellent example of being human.
Most people know what to do, but they don't do what they know -- because they haven't found their inner drive. Their passion.
You must learn how to handle rejection. To succeed, you must learn how to cope with a little word 'no', learn how to strip that rejection of all its power. The best salesmen are those who are rejected most. They are the ones who can take any 'no' and use it as a prod to go onto the next 'yes'.
God's wealth circulates in my life, it flows to me in avalanches of abundance. All my needs, desires and goals are met instantaneously, for I am one with God and he is everything!
Remember: we all get what we tolerate. So stop tolerating excuses within yourself, limiting beliefs of the past, or half-assed or fearful states.
Remember: we all get what we tolerate. So stop tolerating excuses within yourself, limiting beliefs of the past, or half-assed or fearful states. Use your body as a tool to snap yourself into a place of sheer will, determination, and commitment. Face your challenges head on with the core belief that problems are just speed bumps on the road to your dreams. And from that place, when you take massive action-with an effective and proven strategy-you will rewrite your history.
As simplistic as this may sound, commitment is still the common denominator separating those who live their dreams from those who live in regret.
If you want to take the island, then burn your boats. With absolute commitment come the insights that create real victory.
Frustration is a very positive sign. It means that the solution to your problem is within range, but what you're currently doing isn't working, and you need to change your approach in order to achieve your goal.
The message of frustration is an exciting signal. it means that your brain beleives you could be doing better than you currently are.
All successful people learn that success is buried on the other side of frustration.
lAll successful people learn that success is buried on the other side of frustration. Unfortunately, some people don't get to the other side... They allow frustration to keep them from taking the necessary actions that would support them in achieving their desire. You get through this roadblock by plowing through frustration, taking each setback as feedback you can learn from, and pushing ahead.
Make your life a masterpiece: Step beyond the demands of the moment and begin right now to design and live the life you deserve.
My philosophy is to kill the monster while it's little. The best time to handle a negative emotion is when you first begin to feel it. It's much more difficult to interrupt an emotional pattern once it's full-blown.
Success in life is the result of good judgment. Good judgment is usually the result of experience. Experience is usually the result of bad judgment.
In fact if you're a mother or a father, you're filled with oxytocin when you have a child. It makes you love the baby, even though they look like a lizard .You'll think it's the beautiful thing in the world.
The way to go from discord to harmony is to go from concentrating on differences to concentrating on similarities.
The only way to achieve success is by believing you can achieve your goals, no matter what. The story you tell yourself has the power to transform your life or destroy it. When you change your story, you can change your life.
When you feel you have good although incomplete expertise, start trying things. If it's not working, try something else; maintain an experimental mindset.
If you're feeling really sad, there is only one reason: it's because you're deleting all the reasons you could be feeling good. And if you're feeling good, it's because you're deleting all the bad things you could be focusing on.
Realize that if you can instantly create a problem, you can just as quickly and easily create a solution.
The Art of Fulfillment is the ability to experience not only the thrill of the chase, but also the magic of the moment, the unbridled joy of feeling truly alive.
Whatever you hold in your mind on a consistent basis is exactly what you will experience in your life.
High self-esteem comes from feeling like you have control over events not that events have control over you.
The only way a relationship will last is if you see it as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.
What are you going to focus on, that's what affects everybody's life. If you focus on what you can't control, you're a little crazy inside, angry and depressed. If you focus most of the time on what you don't have instead of what you do have, you're going to be extremely unhappy.
Creativity is often blocked by trying to be perfect. Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep.
What changes your life is not learning more. What changes your life is making decisions and using your personal power and taking action.
All too often, the security of a mediocre present is more comfortable than the adventure of trying to be more in the future.
Nothing has to happen for me to feel good! I feel good because I'm alive! Life is a gift, and I revel in it.
The secret to success is... is no secret. It's called work your Ass off and find a way to add more value to peoples lives than anyone else does!
It's your unlimited power to create and to love that can make the biggest difference in the quality of your life.
Life is always happening for us, not to us. It's our job to find out where the benefit is. If we do, life is magnificent.
I've come to realize that all my past failures and frustrations were actually laying the foundation for the understanding that have created the new level of living I now enjoy.
Where focus goes, energy flows.
Where focus goes, energy flows. And where energy flows, whatever you're focusing on grows. In other words, your life is controlled by what you focus on. That's why you need to focus on where you want to go, not on what you fear. When you next find yourself in a state of uncertainty, resist your fear. Shift your focus toward where you want to go and your actions will take you in that direction.
Most people have no idea of the giant capacity we can immediately command when we focus all of our resources on mastering a single area of our lives.
Remember, a real decision is measured by the fact that you've taken new action. If there's no action, you haven't truly decided.
If you want to be successful, find someone who has achieved the results you want and copy what they do and you'll achieve the same results.
Take control of your consistent emotions and begin to consciously and deliberately reshape your daily experience of life.
The way we communicate with others and with ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives.
Only those who have learned the power of sincere and selfless contribution experience life's deepest joy: true fulfillment.
Only those who have learned the power of sincere and selfless contribution experience life's deepest joy: true fulfillment.. Put yourself in a state of mind where you say to yourself, "Here is an opportunity for me to celebrate like never before, my own power, my own ability to get myself to do whatever is necessary.
You see, it's never the environment; it's never the events of our lives, but the meaning we attach to the events -- how we interpret them -- that shapes who we are today and who we'll become tomorrow.
Using the power of decision gives you the capacity to get past any excuse to change any and every part of your life in an instant.
One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in particular.
I challenge you to make your life a masterpiece. I challenge you to join the ranks of those people who live what they teach, who walk their talk.
My definition of success is to live your life in a way that causes you to feel a ton of pleasure and very little pain -- and because of your lifestyle, have the people around you feel a lot more pleasure than they do pain.
The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you're in control of your life. If you don't, life controls you.
You see, in life, lots of people know what to do, but few people actually do what they know. Knowing is not enough! You must take action.
What we can or cannot do, what we consider possible or impossible, is rarely a function of our true capability. It is more likely a function of our beliefs about who we are.
The truth is that we can learn to condition our minds, bodies, and emotions to link pain or pleasure to whatever we choose. By changing what we link pain and pleasure to, we will instantly change our behaviors.
For changes to be of any true value, they've got to be lasting and consistent.
For changes to be of any true value, they've got to be lasting and consistent. Any time you sincerely want to make a change, the first thing you must do is to raise your standards... If you don't set a baseline standard for what you'll accept in life, you'll find it's easy to slip into behaviors and attitudes or a quality of life that's far below what you deserve... Whatever happens, take responsibility... The only thing that's keeping you from getting what you want is the story you keep telling yourself.
To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.